Let’s be real—dating can be confusing and exhausting. You meet someone new, start to catch feelings, and suddenly you’re wondering, “Is this guy the real deal, or am I wasting my time?” Trust me, I’ve been there, and I get it. That’s why I’m sharing some sneaky signs that can help you figure out if he’s a genuinely good guy—without all the drama.
1. Actions > Words
We’ve all heard it before, but let me remind you—what he does matters way more than what he says. If he says he’ll text you, does he actually do it? If he makes plans, does he follow through? A guy who’s serious about you will be consistent. No excuses, no games. It’s really that simple.
2. He Respects Your Boundaries
This one’s huge. A good guy won’t make you feel bad for setting boundaries or saying no. In fact, he’ll respect you more for knowing what you want and sticking to it. Whether it’s about how often you see each other or taking things slow, watch how he reacts. Respect is non-negotiable.
3. He’s Curious About You
When a guy is truly into you, he’ll want to know more than just what you do for work or what your weekend plans are. He’ll ask about your goals, passions, and even those little quirks that make you you. Bonus points if he actually remembers the small details you mention—like your love for [insert something specific you enjoy here].
4. He’s Kind, Even When No One’s Watching
Pay attention to how he treats other people, especially those he doesn’t “need” to impress. Is he polite to the server at dinner? Does he thank the barista who hands him his coffee? These little moments say a lot about who he is at his core.
5. He Can Handle a Disagreement
Let’s face it: life isn’t all rainbows and sunshine. There’s going to be conflict. How does he handle it? Does he listen and try to understand your perspective, or does he shut down and make you feel unheard? A good guy knows how to communicate without making everything a battle.
6. You Share Similar Values
This one might not seem as important in the beginning, but trust me, it matters. You don’t have to agree on everything, but when it comes to big things—like how you see the future, your goals, and your values—you should be on the same page. If you’re not, it’s okay to walk away before you get in too deep.
Trust Your Gut
At the end of the day, you already know when something feels off. Don’t ignore those little red flags just because you’re excited about someone. The right guy will make you feel secure, seen, and appreciated. And if he doesn’t? Don’t be afraid to move on—you deserve better.
Dating is tough, but it’s also a chance to learn about yourself and what you want. If you want more tips like these, check out my full video here. Let’s make dating fun again, okay? You’ve got this. 💖
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